My name is Heather Deatrick and I have 3 boys. I found ICAN through my Bradley instructor when I was attempting a VBAC with my 2nd child. I remember thinking at the time I didn’t feel “traumatized” by my c-section, and I was quite sure modern medicine had saved his life, so wasn’t sure why I needed to go. But she kept urging me so I finally went to a meeting. I had no idea how much my life was going to change!My first birth ended in a cesarean after a failed induction for being post-dates. It never occurred to me to question the induction as I still had not entertained the thought that it would not be medically necessary. Now I know that the only reason for the induction was for being 41w3d, not for any fetal distress or condition on my part. I was given Cyctotec without my knowledge, necessitating an epidural, followed by Pitocen, then regular heart decels sending us off to the OR. The Cytotec was given at 7PM, the c-section at noon the next day. I was devastated but grateful he was OK and I lived through he surgery. Thankfully, breastfeeding went OK and I had no complications. I never thought I would have any more children, so when I found myself pregnant 3 years later, I was very excited to try for a VBAC. While I didn’t know a lot about the politics of birth, I DID know I didn’t want another c-section. I also knew my OB had a different agenda when he patted my knee at my 6 week checkup and told me that next time I can just schedule the birth, as though that were a plus. So with this child, I went back to trusting my instincts, and found a midwife and took a comprehensive childbirth education class. It was on my VBAC journey that I not only had to learn so much, but more importantly, I had to UN-learn so much. The biggest thing I found I had to unlearn was that childbirth is a disaster waiting to happen and we need someone to save us. That was a massive indoctrination to unlearn. My VBAC was a success and after a long labor that involved a lot of movement and rocking and moaning and a little yelling, I was able to push my 2nd son out. It was incredibly empowering to do what women have been doing for thousands and thousands of years. I felt honored to be totally present at his birth. I felt strong, making my own decisions, rather than turning my body over to a doctor. My midwife was there for me, and I felt that power. My baby latched immediately and we went home from the hospital the next day. Fast forward 4 more years and I was lucky enough to give birth one more time, in my dining room, into water, with my partner, my kids, my mother, my midwives and my doula. Not everyone should give birth at home, but for me, it was truly the best experience. Going from the tub to bed where I stayed for two weeks nursing my newest son, was perfect, for the whole family. The care we received from our midwives was like none other too. They spent so much time with us, before, during and after the birth that I felt I was truly in the best hands possible. (Both of my VBAC birth stories can be found on the ICAN Twin Cities website)
Monday, August 26, 2013
Meet our Board: Heather Deatrick
As we usher in a new Board for the Twin Cities Chapter, we wanted to give you some insight into our backgrounds and experiences as ICAN mothers. First up is our leader, Heather Deatrick. Here is her short biography, in her own words.